Friday, October 27, 2023

Male/Female Dynamics

There are some mornings when I wake up and find myself wrestling with an epiphany.

Today it was on the subject of harmony/balance and male/female relations.

The epiphany wasn't entirely new but it was articulated in a way that was more indisputable.

It started with the idea of the holy trinity. Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. What I was realizing is that the Bible has been corrupted and for the longest time I knew it was Father, Mother and Child. When we make the sign of the cross, Father is tapping the forehead (mind, logic, reason, intellect, drive, motivation, will, ambition, active, masculine), when we tap the chest and call it "Son" we are incorrect. We are tapping into the heart which is Mother (heart, intuition, wisdom, nurturing, creativity, inspiration, receptivity, connection, feminine), when we tap both shoulders it is also not the Holy Spirit we are acknowledging. It is the totality/harmony of the male/female mother/father left brain/right brain. 

So the TRUE trinity is Father, Mother and Child or the result of the Father/Mother. The product.

This is the key of Creation that has been obfuscated from most religions. The mixture of the Yin and the Yang, of the left brain and the right, the positive and the negative polarities. Sophia, the goddess of wisdom. Mother Earth.

This profound equation is the secret of self-actualization. Corrupted by the church but easily understood when you replace the Holy Spirit and the Son with the correct terminology/archetypes.

There is a reason why the Church diminished the role of women in the religion. The Creator, The Created and the Womb of Creation. 

The Cathars knew this of course, which is why they were among the first to be exterminated during the Inquisition. A strange group to target given that they were Gnostic Christians and believed in Christ. They did not believe in a church and held worship outdoors. They treated women as equal. They believed that sex wasn't bad but procreation was (because to bring another soul into this world is to produce another slave for the system to corrupt and feed off of).

They knew the secrets the Roman Catholic church wished to keep from us.

In thinking about this while laying in bed, it made more sense as to what our respective roles are in terms of gender. Women are the inspiration of many men while men are the driving force forward. 

We can think of men as cars and women as fuel. We cannot have one without the other if we aim to achieve our fullest potential and achieve balance in terms of energy polarity. While many men are single and successful and so are women, this is not the natural order of how we were originally wired to be. The hunter/gatherer model presumes the man to collect difficult to obtain resources while the woman would stay behind and nurture a child or to be involved in community building, cooking, cleaning, etc.

The female energy is intuitive and aims for an elevation of spirit whereas the masculine energy is more in the intellect and the strength from which is often derived from the woman which creates a kind of feedback loop. The woman inspires the man to drive forward and rewards him for his successes, encouraging him along the way. To aim higher. And in exchange, the man allows the woman to tap into her nurturing/intuitive nature ever more deeper by protecting and providing for her. The end result is a balancing where the man takes on qualities of the woman and the woman takes on aspects of the man. Achieving synergy.

A big part of the reason why gender relations have been falling apart is the introduction of women to the workplace. Now they compete with men, therefore negating the "need" for men to be involved. This is why we are currently seeing a denigration of family values in our culture. The surest way to upset the apple cart and damage human relations is to reverse the role of men and women and confuse them with religion and progressive ideology.

It has always worked best when we were hunter/gatherers and one man provided for his family.

This however is contingent on respect for one another and an understanding of what each brings to the table.

Looking back on my past relationships, I understood why most of the women I've dated have been wrong for me. Few of them inspired me to do great things and those that did, did not reciprocate or reward me for my efforts. They also did not share my vision, which is also important for a male/female dynamic.

With my ex I wanted to live in the country on an acreage. She wanted the city life. Competing visions.

We had disagreements on almost everything. Competing values.

She focused more on her "career" rather than the relationship which was against her feminine nature.

She would not defer to a leader and did not act to improve the relationship. Instead, as her masculine expression grew over time, I was then moved more into the feminine role because there was a vacuum that was not being filled. A hole in the relationship. 

She neglected her role and later, so did I.

No wonder it was so contentious between us. However, even role reversal works if both partners are sincere and respectful about it. A man can express and channel feminine energy while the woman does the opposite. Balance can be achieved. But in my particular case, I didn't want to to be the woman in the relationship. Was I in tune with my feminine side? Yes. But I did not want that to be my dominant expression.

When thinking about all this, it really comes down to balance. Single or in a relationship or married makes no difference. Polarities can be more readily balanced with the right two people being involved but it also can be achieved on an individual level.

The feminine rewards the masculine and the masculine is inspired to act due to the reward. Whether it is sex, loyalty or respect being earned, the end product should be balance and love between both.

It is a shame when I look at the world and see single moms juggling between both polarities of having to provide for their children and to express the feminine side of themselves.

Which is why there are so few feminine women in modern western society. We can blame a number of factors including false female "empowerment" due to progressive ideology as well as the economic necessity of having to make money enough for them to survive and thrive in a life where the loyalty and commitment of a man is not easily had.

We can say the same for men as well when they are consumed by video games and making enough money to get by without any real ambitions in mind or interest in achieving their greatest potential.

I remember well that it took over a year for my ex to ask me about what I was writing. Writing a book was on my mind for such a long time and prior to meeting her I was making progress in achieving that dream. Once she arrived however, constant texts/calls and visits distracted me from my purpose of which she had no interest in and did not attempt to encourage the realization of.

This is why it is so important for both sexes to know their roles in this world and to find a partner that complements their weaknesses. Which is actually what my ex and I had. Sadly, she did not see what I was seeing in terms of the importance of the relationship and did not share my vision.

So it collapsed into anger and resentment. Unsurprisingly given how more masculine she was becoming over time. Shifting the balance and forcing me to become more feminine as a result.

Which of course would make any man angry. Yet, my ex was the model for modern woman. Signing her emails with pronouns, supporting "defunding the police" and basically getting on board with the mainstream brainwashing of empowerment and girl power. Cursing the "patriarchy" for its sins when the reverse is true, as the gender of the most valuable contributors in human history has predominantly been men. This does NOT mean that women cannot and should not achieve the same, but it points to the clear fact that men are physically stronger, more intellectual, more ambitious and better equipped at achieving professional and material success.

"Behind every great man is a woman."

The crime perpetrated upon society at this moment is a deep deception and obfuscation of Truth. There is a reason why the family unit is being dismantled the way it is and why divide and conquer tactics have been so effective.

We used to be bonded by Christian values in the West. Any form of nudity on the television or cursing or inappropriate material was swiftly called out and complained about. No longer. Porn is freely available and many shows on Netflix have elements of depravity (rape scenes in Game of Thrones, sexualizing young children, profanity, etc) and a denigration of male role models with females taking the traditional role away from men by being superheroes that can do everything and more better than a man can. In no better way is this disconnect showcased than the Mad Max movie with Charlize Theron's character helping Max fire a sniper rifle because he was too incompetent to do it himself. Most of the movie features Charlize Theron kicking butt and knowing what to do while Max bumbles around like an inconvenient prop getting in the way.

This is done on purpose as we know. It is not about empowering women, it is about reducing the effectiveness of men and taking away their strength. It is about damaging relations between both.

When we look up at the sky, we see the dance of polarities. The sun is the positive active force of the day while the moon is the passive negative luminary of the night. This is why the sun can cure and preserve food while moonlight decays and decomposes. Each has their purpose and balance. One cannot exist without the other.

We live in a system of duality. Good and evil, light and dark, male and female. When "society" has up meaning down and right being wrong; we corrupt the polarity, disrupt balance and invite in chaos. This is what is happening right now. Especially with transgenderism being encouraged and the terrible concessions women in positions of power are making due to the weaponization of their compassion. This is why we have ESG and DEI and drag queen story time hour and pronouns being shoved down the throats of everyone.

Where men are logical and level-headed, women are a vortex of ever-changing ideas.

These are dark times and many are ignorant about what is occurring. They are ignorant about solutions as well. When a woman chases after her "ideal" man who has to be wealthy, tall and handsome; they are doing so without bringing anything of value to the table other than entitlement while many men are shoved off to the side or mistreated, causing them to develop misogynist tendencies which can involve the mistreatment of the women they get involved with and thinking of them as little other than sex objects to be manipulated.

Porn today has no expressions of love in it. The sacred act of sex has been reduced to a recreational hobby rather than a fusing of opposites in search of harmony and balance. 

I myself confess to making some of these mistakes in my experiences with women. Some of the relationships I was in I didn't see much value from women other than their ability to provide sex.  Only a rare few were interested in encouraging me to express my masculine side and in those relationships, I didn't have much attraction to them. Not physically, not intellectually or emotionally. 

But as I think about all this, I become more aware of what my role is and the role of women should be. It may be like finding a needle in a haystack to have a single woman without children who is interested in a committed relationship where we are both elevated and are both celebrated in our respective roles/polarities.

That is the dense secret behind the holy trinity. 

Father, Mother, Child. Creator, the womb of Creation and the Created. The result. The balance and synthesis of both.

If only more of us knew.